My lovely family has been struck down with a rather nasty virus. Unconfirmed but thought to be swine flu. Frankly whatever it is doesn't really matter we have all been rather ill.
Once the fever has come and gone, the malaise has set in during the drawn out recuperation period. This has given me a bit of time to reflect on many things that have happened to and around me this past few months.
Life around here is pretty good particuarly considering the complete mess it was in a few years ago. Business is good, the children are a delight and I get to share my life with the most amazing partner one could ever wish for. Ok it's not all beer and skittles we have our ups and downs. House hunting is more than a little stressful as we have cast a wide net but we have a reasonable budget so we will find something eventually. I am a reasonably patient person.
The only blips on the radar has been the complex issue of friendships.
I was quite happy with the friendship circles I had both on and offline. I managed to fall into a lovely mothers group locally and they really are the nicest bunch you would want to meet. They are intelligent, caring, sharing and genuine. We met by a accident of our children birthdates and geographic location but I can really see myself remaining in contact with most of these people for a very long time.
I also found a lovely online group which was traveling along really nicely. Yes there was the odd hiccup and I didn't always agree with what people said. Sometimes I would speak up about it, other times I would just say nothing and ignore the bits I didn't agree with for the sake of the group. I am not one of those people who sets out to be mean or thinks that my opinion is the only one that matters or that my way is the only way. I am also polite. I may not really like you or your behaviour but I will be pleasant and polite because life is too short to get into a bumfight over silly little things or be a complete bitch.
It was with great sadness that I watched the group implode. I really enjoyed their friendship but such is the lifecycle of friendships. Originally I was thinking it was just like every other internet group I had watched unravel but the lines between internet and real life were so blurred. We all met up with each other, sent each other gifts, texted and phoned. It may have started online but it had morphed into so much more. I do miss it but the ones I care about most have made an effort to keep in touch.
There are other events that have happened in recent months that I won't talk about openly that have caused me to think about what a true friendship is and who I want to have involved in my life. It also made me think about where I want my details shared, Social networking has blurred the lines between the online persona and offline reality even more. I have always used a nom de nets to protect my privacy and it was a huge move for me to put my real name on Facebook.
I do really appreciate my true friends no matter how I met you.
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